mother with horse before my time on earth

They can only get away with the total falsification of the present if They can make us reject the past.


The present is the past wearing a latex mask. The structure of the skull determines the mask’s appearance.


The first girl who ever sucked my cock was a white girl.  Jewish. I was eighteen and we were on the sofa in the room outside her parents’ bedroom at about 11pm, watching the Johnny Carson show, my big brown cock stuck in her little white violet-rimmed mouth. I want to say my cock was the size and color of a Brazilian toddler’s forearm so imagine that in your mouth. Lizzy is a professor of English now at a top notch University and an Orthodox Jewess to boot and my first blowjob was a let-down for both of us because I snatched my cock out of her mouth and zipped my pants up and bolted down the stairs when her mother asked us something indistinctly through the door. I suddenly realize it was Lizzy’s mother I wanted to fuck all along. But I really liked her Father. They welcomed me into their bookish, Bohemian, secularly-Jewish, upper-middle class home.


That was in 1977. In 1977, I was so lithe I often sucked my own cock, so I had ideas about the proper way to do it.


I will not reject the past.


There was an integrated couple who lived in the house across from the three houses I lived in on C— Street. A white male, of about twenty five, with sandy blonde hair and a mustache and his Diana Ross-lookalike wife.  You’d see him shirtless mowing their lawn and wave. Seeing them together gave me vague notions of hope.


The total extent of my knowledge of cocksucking (defined as someone else sucking your cock), from age zero years to eighteen, came from the pornographic coloring book I found  in the alley behind my grandfather’s garage when I was nine. It was at the end of the alley that opened on the side-street my friend F. Small lived on (the alley-wide gap in the sidewalk I had once almost killed myself, on the hood of my grandfather’s Buick, at,  by launching on a bike from a home-made ramp at very nearly precisely the moment my grandfather roared down the alley with an unreadable facial expression, camera-flashed by my precociously death-resigned surprise) . That was all that I’d ever known about cocksucking.

I was born in Los Angeles, in 1959, the only (but for one other) child of a handsome radio DJ and an ex dancer of great (but fading) beauty. I fled LA with my family, at the age of three,  for reasons having to do with a deal gone terribly wrong (actually, here’s the story: my father arranged and promoted a very early Aretha Franklin concert and it was such a success he put on another, renting a bigger venue… and “lost his shirt” and the shirts of several others, who weren’t happy). We fled to Chicago. First stop, my grandmother’s house. I always called it “my grandmother’s house” but often referred to  “my grandfather’s garage”. I met F. Small when I was seven. In my memories F.  Small speaks like a grownup but that can’t be accurate.

I’m not sure if “friend” is the right term but F.  was a kid I played with and the way I’ve managed to remember his name, more than forty year later, is that F. was small. F. had a built-in mnemonic attached to his name that I’ve never, until now, wondered if he outgrew. Which would segue nicely into a philosophical monologue on the subject of a question that has long fascinated me (do names, in some cases, determine the fates of their possessors?) if this chapter weren’t about cocksucking instead.

It’s not really, or exclusively, or more than tangentially, about cocksucking, this chapter.  It’s about friendship. It’s about people we lose in the gently-radioactive mists of modern Time (a Time that has no time for itself). And cocksucking.

But it’s mostly about B—. Who we’ll call Tadzio. Or, no: Encolpius.

When I found the pornographic coloring book it was a little like being punched in the stomach with my grandmother’s severed head. I’m trying to recapture the nauseated thrill, here.  Robin with Batman’s saber-shaped cock in his mouth. Someone left it there for a kid to find. I became that kid. Why?

Popeye on all fours (I’ve never noticed, before, how bizarre the phrase “on all fours” looks; all four what?),  sodomized by Bluto. I spun wildly to see if anyone  saw me seeing Robin with Batman’s cock in his mouth. I think I ran down the alley in tears (clutching the rolled-up coloring book).

That was the beginning and end of the subject for the next ten years. Which wasn’t just any ten years: it encompassed The Summer of Love, The Fall of Saigon, Watergate, The Birth of Punk, The Death of Elvis, my first wet dream and Studio 54.

mother young
mother young


I was swaggering down Chestnut street in 1977 with coltish insouciance in the company of a gang of pseudo-intellectual friends.  We weren’t pretending to be smart; we really were very smart kids who’d just graduated from a venerable (founded in 1836) college-prep. It’s just that the aggregation of our worldly knowledge equaled totally fuckall. I had read thirty or forty pages of One Hundred Years of Solitude.

We were either coming from or going to Sam Goody’s, the record store.

I was supposed to be in Saint Paul, Minnesota, checking out prospective colleges after deliberately missing the deadlines for submitting applications to MIT, Amherst, Brown, Yale, Princeton, Harvard and so forth. I had been given an Amtrak rail pass (cash value: USD 165)  and something like two hundred bucks in traveler’s checks plus fifty in cash and ten in quarters (for phone calls) and I had somehow managed to cash in the rail pass and was liquidating the traveler’s checks left and right while holing up (I’ve never really looked at that phrase before: holing? up?) at Eddie Wilson’s mom’s place for the two weeks I was supposed to be gone. It was a ludicrously daring plot. It was also, I think, grand larceny and I wouldn’t be writing this if the (then) septuagenarians who had funded the trip weren’t long-since grinning in their bourgeois graves on the other side of the Atlantic. My great Aunt was a former teacher and the approximate size of a 9-year-old. A beautiful little jewel of a racially-ambiguous woman with back-length steel-gray hair she hid under curly expensive wigs during business hours.

—I was shocked, many years later, to be informed by an older relative that my tiny great Aunt, the one I lived with in Philly, at the Funeral Home, while attending the venerable college-prep school,  had once advised, in reference to some marital difficulty this relative was having, verbatim, and with “great enthusiasm”:

“The tongue heals all!”

[name one year since the Ice Age in which cock-sucking wasn’t popular among approximately half of all Sapiens]

I took all this money and pretended to be looking at colleges to the West while staying around the corner at Eddie Wilson’s gothic-Bohemian place with his Mom and their Beat Poet lodger (that is not an invention). The Beat Poet and former rodeo clown with a broken back. Once every few days I put a wet washcloth over the phone in Eddie Wilson’s bedroom and “phoned home” in the evening and reported on the hijinks of the fraternity boys at colleges that didn’t even ( as I hadn’t yet discovered) have fraternities.  While amassing one fuck of a collection of prog-rock vinyl. Jethro Tull, Yes, ELP, Steeleye Span, Gentle Giant.  I dressed up in a ridiculous disguise to meet my new girlfriend, Princess (half-Black/ half-Korean) on dates to buy records together. Later, she helped break the gender-barrier at West Point and went on to Wharton School of Business. The family compound I lived in on C—– Street at our Funeral Home featured a showroom for high-end caskets that Princess pestered me to fuck her in. Encolpius didn’t like Princess. Encolpius didn’t like any girls who liked me. I thought it was funny.

The soundtrack at this point should be Emerson, Lake and Palmer. The magnificent Moog solo from    From the Beginning


Encolpius drove the family ’69 Volkswagen minibus.

All of us… Eddie Wilson, Woody, Achilles, “Tim Reid”, Encolpius and I… piled in the minibus on Friday nights with the passionate belief that there was Sex in the world and we would unearth its location. I invented a psycho-Dadaist game. The psycho-Dadaist game that ended Encolpius’ parents’ marriage, possibly. I called it AUTOTHERAPY.

In AUTOTHERAPY the Volkswagen minibus drove you (THE SUBJECT) and the rest of the gang (THE AUDIENCE)  to wherever it was you most feared to go at that moment. For example, we picked Eddie Wilson and drove him, at about 2 in the morning, to the townhouse of this upper-class girl named Gwynneth (18) who lived with her parents and was surprised no doubt to hear the doorbell ring and find Eddie Wilson on the stoop reciting poetry for her (to the sonic backdrop of that minibus idling whine and our guffaws).

When my turn came we drove to pick up the girl I’d just been dumped by the previous week, Lizzy (she dumped me for a guy who later went to prison for insider trading; she dumped me because this guy was already a full bore dirty fucking poetry-free adult, whereas I was just a boy… she dumped me and it hurt most of all because in dumping me she went back to him, a future ex-con whose dick was even bigger than my famously big dick.  I know it was bigger because Lizzy’s inspired attempt at complimenting me the first time we fucked [in the master bedroom of my great Aunt and Uncle’s Funeral Home] was to purr, insidiously,   I like your penis, it’s just the right size, not too big… ) .

Lizzy drove around downtown Philly in the minibus with us for about an hour, laughing as hard as anyone else, just like one of the guys, and it just now occurred to me (what’s the word for an epiphany so minor it changes nothing?), as I write this, that Lizzy was in such a good mood that night,  was such a good sport, wasting time with a bunch of geeky Monty-Python-besotted goons when she could have been sucking the world’s biggest unwashed cock in front of a Television instead,  because I’d done her the valuable service of confirming the justice of going back to the horse-dicked asshole who would one day do seven years in Federal Prison. Actually, I have no idea how much time Kevin actually did. But Lizzy* is now married to an Ambassador (a famously reptilian neocon), as recovered from her youthful flirtation with unambitious Bohemia (me) as she could possibly be. When she’s blinking through the interminable night beside her snoring Neocon and touching herself with Regret’s kitschy ardor, it is undoubtedly Kev’s felonious dick she conjures.

Encolpius’ father was a big deal chemist who was nominated for a Nobel prize. He was so fancy that he bought himself a car that almost nobody else in Philly owned: the Champagne Edition of the Volkswagen Rabbit (“The Champagne Edition was a sales campaign that Volkswagen did in 1977 and 1978. The first special sales campaign was to commemorate the production of the one-millionth VW Rabbit”). Encolpius’ dad’s Nobel-prize-winning laboratory featured a young assistant, a not-bad-looking girl, I think her name was Maggie. I think she was 24. Encolpius affected to have some kind of crush on Maggie… or maybe the crush was genuine and he was torn between two directions he felt he might have to choose between soon. Encolpius talked about Maggie the way my Aunt and Uncle (with whom I lived in Philly in order to attend the college prep school) talked about certain admirable neighbors.  It was hard to feel the passion there but Maggie became THE OBJECT of Encolpius’ session of AUTOTHERAPY.

We drove THE SUBJECT to Maggie’s apartment building (she had her own flat!) well after midnight one Friday. We were all dressed up in ridiculous outfits which included vests and dress shoes and homburg hats.  Eddie Wilson, Woody, Achilles, Tim Reid, Encolpius and I drove to Maggie’s place at an unreasonable hour.  All six of us stood on the stoop in front of the glass-paned door to the foyer of her building. Through the door you could see through the little foyer into the long hall on both sides of which the doors of the residents stood.

Just before Encolpius rang Maggie’s bell I said to Achilles, “Hey, isn’t that Encolpius’ dad’s car parked up the street, right there?” It was a distinctive auto.

Maggie stepped out of her door in an oversized blue bathrobe and said, quite audibly, “Oh shit,”  and ran back into her apartment.

Writing is therapeutic.


It was me, Eddie Wilson, Woody, Achilles, “Tim Reid”, Encolpius…

Woody the Jew, Eddie Wilson the half-Jew, Encolpius the Italian, Achilles the Mulatto and “Tim Reid”  the bona fide middle class clean-living Black boy. And me.

I was and am a messy Mutt of genes and signifiers freighted with a progressing phobia against fitting in. I was everyone’s friend in a complex arrangement of veiled antipathies. Achilles considered Eddie Wilson a sappy Hippie, Eddie Wilson considered Achilles a psychopath jock and poor Woody (who would soon be dead on a motorcycle) was jealous of my friendship with Encolpius, who hated all of my girlfriends.

Before the divorce, I’d be in Encolpius’ kitchen late at night eating half the Pasta Fazul his mother had made that afternoon, for their six-piece family, as though it had appeared in the refrigerator by magic, just cluelessly going to town. I can see Encolpius laughing so silent and hard, slit-eyed and breathless. I can see him in his paper hat in the Ice Cream shop called The Rocking Horse he worked in for his summer job. I can see myself walking there from the trolley stop one Saturday with the tingling faux-danger of having been told that this was the notorious little Gay part of town with all the foggy hot bars and pastel-flashing shoe-shops and clothes stores with changing rooms your High School friends might double-dare you on a five-buck bet to try on expensive khaki shorts in. How could I love Encolpius, my best friend, yet be so cheerfully oblivious to the particulars of his situation? But that’s how it was. Years later, after college, I phoned a number I’d gotten for Encolpius, from his mother, and an old man answered the phone.

Weeks after High School graduation, we all swaggered down Chestnut street and my pockets were full of loot and our peppy sexual desperation expressed itself as the willingness to laugh at almost anything so hard that we couldn’t breathe. I had a god-given knack for saying things that would cause that to happen, a prodigious Smartass. Look at those loud teens cackling on Chestnut street, yucking it up on illegal drugs, people probably thought. But we never touched drugs or drink and rarely touched girls. We were innocents. Except for my grand larceny we were innocents.


 THE MOST INTERESTING LETTER I EVER GOT (from one of the most brilliant people I ever knew: Lizzy’s Sister), relating events relevant to characters mentioned in the text above: an excerpt


Hi S,

although I should be writing a final paper for Observation and Recording
(observation of a child in educational setting, recording objective (har) description of said child’s every move) I am instead writing to you.

Here’s what I remember.

I don’t remember meeting you but I am pretty sure I met you through Eunice H___ who, I think, met Keith W___ first. I remember hanging out in the hallway at Girls’ High where the large plaster cast of the winged victory stood. You and Keith were around or maybe it was India and Jasmine (Jade?). I do not remember Jasmine (Jade?) except that she was beautiful and sort of tiny and yours for the time being. As I recall. India was Keith’s. There was conversation at some point about Keith and India’s ill-advised birth control practices. I don’t know who spoke about that. I don’t know what production you and Keith may or may not have been involved with – perhaps one of the terrible terrible plays that were presented. With Mr. Mealy or whatever his name was, directing. It was a way to meet boys, although I would not ever have said that. It was a way to not go home and listen to “Love Hurts” on the radio or whatever the hell. Were it not for Eunice, though, I wouldn’t have met you guys.

I saw Eunice a year or so after I moved to NYC, so around 1986. She was sort of snide to me. I got the impression that she was in some sort of mental bad shape, she seemed very intent on impressing me with her connections to artists and scene and so on. I never saw her again. I remember her teeth and how her eyes became when she smiled. She had a crush on my cousin Ben when she was at NYU and he also was. He was tall. She had been my good friend, though.

I remember a day in December when it was warm, and I was going into school through the Broad street door, maybe straight to choir practice, maybe it was that early. I think that there was a tree there, and probably black iron gates that could close off the stairway after hours. Maybe not. I still dream about that school very often. I was wearing no coat, just an old old cream colored cashmere sweater that had been my mothers. A cardigan, with thin shell buttons. Probably with a brown and black and orange and lavender plaid shirt – it wasn’t bad, it just sounds it now. You were there, maybe with Keith. You seemed sort of happy. You had just done something, intentionally or not, with some blemish somewhere on your face (I do not remember). I do remember looking at a little welling dome of blood (it is so red, it is opaque and luminous at the same time). Probably I remember this because it broke some spell of fearful adulation which had bound me to you briefly. Or I might remember it because I am an inveterate picker and have been from a very early age.

I don’t remember how or when you and Lizzy got together in any way. I do not remember if it was before or after that party in June or something at a Knights of Columbus somewhere way south in the city, near the airport and swamps and refineries but not really near. A girl with brown hair, she was nice, she was very pleasant. I don’t know how any of us knew her. I don’t know how we got over there or how we got home, I do remember that we didn’t go home, we stayed at a friend of the family’s. But the party. There were tables set up on a 2nd floor, long tables. I suppose there was music. It was rather dimly lit. Ben H__ was there, he told me I would be beautiful except there was something weird about my chin. I have thought of that since, through the years, because I have never been bothered by my chin. I don’t like the crooked mouth I have and the nose. The sort of mean superior look I can’t really help having – and the unrelenting physical comedy to which I must resort to somehow dilute the effect of the mean superior look.

Maybe Bill L___ was at that party. It might have been there that Lizzy and you. I don’t know. Bill L___ had a barbeque (however it is spelled…I think it comes from the language of the Taino or other Arawak people). I remember Lisa Diaz was there, she was Bill’s friend. I think she was worried about how I would treat Bill and rightly so. Bill came over to our house, maybe with you, maybe not. I made some sort of chocolate something. Bill kissed me briefly. It was of no importance and I decided it was probably never going to be of any importance. Maybe it was late late in the summer when I invited you to come over one afternoon. I think we had lemonade and cookies my mother baked. There was one kiss and I once again decided it was never going to be of any importance. Despite those two kisses (Bill’s and yours) I still maintain that I never kissed anyone until after I had graduated from Girls’ High, the summer before I went to Penn. My mother still mentions, from time to time, how unconscionable it was that I had invited you over while you and Lizzy were befriended in that way. I got in trouble about it

I was 16 or 15 when I knew you. You gave me the hawk or eagle from the funeral home. I kept it until 1982 when I left it in the office of the printmaking department of the Philadelphia College of Art while I went to Rome for a semester. I came back and they had put a green wriggling rubber lizard in the bird’s beak. The bird still looked rancorous and had its wonderful acrid smell. 20 years later the bird is in the current office of the printmaking dept. in what is now the University of the Arts. And no one knows where it came from, really.

I am sure there was something more I could’ve said about knowing you in Philadelphia. I don’t recall whether it was you or Keith who was really so keen on the Beatles. I thought it was you. I think this every time I sing Not a Second Time to my kid. It’s a funny song coming from me. Ridiculous even.

That’s about what there is. Once Heather H__ borrowed a suede thrift store jacket of mine to go on a date with Ben H__. I never got the jacket back. I always wondered if the date had led to anything.

Now that really, really is almost all there is. After Bill L__ had been in college a couple of months, back in 1977, in the fall, he called me to say he had slit his arms, like inner elbow as it were. He was depressed and he’d cut open his arms. I didn’t know what to say. I am sure I was the terrible opposite of comforting. That is the last I heard from (or of) him. I think the cuts he’d made prevented him from playing rugby or whatever it was that he played.

OK, time to write this paper now. I am going to use Heine’s Lorelei as an organizing trope (about the kid I observed, or boys or men in general, who are wrecks because they are trying to attain/regain connection with some female ideal in an effort to repair the trauma sustained through a premature separation from the mother).

Yeah, so that is that.

Looking for God, I remain,


12 thoughts on “EXCERPT FROM “THE VELVETEEN GULAG” [a memoir]: Chapter 10: THE CHAMPAGNE RABBIT

  1. Mistah Charley! Interesting that you should refer to, and comment on, that particular scene in “The Meaning of Life,” as it’s the one that always struck me as the strangest (I saw it the week it premiered). I always felt the “hat” riff was a (highly effective) joke bouncing right back to the riff about (wo)Man’s ability to be distracted (from the soul’s development) by trivial matters. I laughed at the “hat” joke but the other half of the joke… the straight part… gave me goosebumps (the music under the monologue helped).

    Re: Gurdjieff: I was exposed to him around the same year I was exposed to Blavatsky… I must say I’ve since written it all off as Millennial Slavic Hucksterism, designed to gull rich disciples in jejune America (and perhaps England as well, the way Vedanta snagged Isherwood by way of prosperous postWar California; perhaps Cleese was susceptible in a similar way)… just as Ayn Rand did, a bit later, with greater success. The educated American leisure classes were fad-mad and ripe for the plucking back then. There’s something about the prosperity of the upper-classes, in an Empire after a lucrative war, that breeds a gentle guilt in some members of these classes and turns them into “seekers of The Answer”… perhaps they need to justify their comfortable lives?


  2. speaking of the possibly fruitless search for illumination/awakening/liberation – these days my wife attend a “centering prayer” group connected with a local catholic church (we are choir members, also) but i read ecumenically – e.g. among buddhists – and found the following:

    In “The mind illuminated: A complete meditation guide integrating Buddhist wisdom and brain science”, Culadasa gives a picture (3 pictures, really – figure 57, pages 411-413) of the changes in worldview he says can be produced by practicing the program of development he delineates. There are a lot of circles and arrows in the illustrations. Here are the captions for the three stages:

    p. 411 Three assumptions – that I am a separate Self, that I live in a world of relatively enduring and self-existent “things”, and that my happiness comes from the interactions between my Self and this world of things – are shared throughout the subminds making up the mind-system. They provide the foundation for our sense of meaning and purpose in life.

    p. 412 The “true” nature of reality, as revealed through Insight experiences, directly conflicts with all these assumptions: there are no “things”, only process; all we ever really experience are the fabrications of our own minds; the Self I think I am is as impermanent and empty as everything else; the world can never be the source of my happiness. When these truths are realized by the deep unconscious minds, it is severely disruptive.

    p. 413 As Insight matures, individual sub-minds reorganize their internal models to accommodate the new information. This transformation brings about a completely new worldview, life takes on a new and deeper meaning and purpose than ever before, and there is a much greater sense of ease, regardless of what may happen.

    The thought balloon on page 413 states, “I am not separate. Everything arises and passes away due to causes and conditions. This body and mind are not things, but causal process. Having arisen due to causes and conditions, they are causes and conditions in their turn Ultimate truth is knowable, but not through ideas and concepts. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.”


    1. “there are no “things”, only process”

      Well, as I always say: the cleverest guides are the one who keep us lost! Laugh. My Life is quite good as a result of the interaction of key things *and* processes; the key to Happiness is learning what you like to do/feel/have and doing/feeling/having it as much as you can. That is the basis of the Practical Philosophy that will keep you smiling, and waking up eager every morning, until the body one day fails (as it must). It probably helps (quite a lot) to be happily married (with lots of sex and/or physical affection involved). The rest, I believe, is jibber jabber…


  3. 1)i became aware of your internet presence through a mention at blckdgrd.com, who credits davidly with bringing him to your attention – i have the impression that you and davidly are both american expats auf deutschland – maybe you have even met in the meatworld (though maybe not – i have been commenting at blckdgrd for years and never met in person, though we live within 20 miles of each other)

    2)the key to Happiness is learning what you like to do/feel/have and doing/feeling/having it as much as you can – yes, this view is what is depicted on page 411 of culadasa’s book – and maybe you’re right in your current opinion that the message of the central scene of ‘meaning of life’ is jibber jabber – the goosebumps you felt the first time you saw it were certainly helped along by the soundtrack

    3)but pause and ponder – what if the gnostics are right? at blckdgrd i offer an interpretation of james tate’s surrealistic poem “the shroud of the gnome” –


    and even propose “wind of change” by the scorpions as the “little known ballad about the pitiful, raw etiquette of the underworld”



    1. 1. Re: The Internet Presence: mine was rather more vivid c. 2008- c. 2010, when at least half the LitBlogSphere hated me! Laugh. To “get along” with people you’re generally expected to pick one side and blow perpetual raspberries at the opposing team, but my general outlook is that Conservatives/ Liberals are two sides of the same weird coin, as are Trump/ Clinton, Capitalism/ Communism, Puritans/ Pornographers, et al. We’re raised with all these False Binaries (eg, Fast isn’t the opposite of Slow: they’re on a continuum, and Black Humans are certainly not the opposite of White Humans; ditto Women and Men: *not* opposites). Every time I swagger into the Virtual Bar, hundreds of adherents of X are crowded on one stool, and hundreds of adherents of Y are stacked on another… and as I walk between the two stools they all blow raspberries! Like a car wash.

      The Bloggers who link to me, occasionally, are the Weirdos who aren’t blowing raspberries… which is nice to think about.

      2) “what if the gnostics are right?”

      What if Richard Nixon was? Or Sun Ra? Or the Finns who removed the fingernails of their dead to foil Loki’s attempt to use these fingernails to shingle his End of the World boat? Life is too short to put each of all the million competing eschatologies to a scientific test. Regarding *That Which Cannot Be Known* , what can I do but very pragmatically go with the instincts I have that are born of Experience?


  4. 1)goth and chocolate – an interesting story indeed – one of my own more colorful autobiographical episodes was when a young woman i was associating with got pregnant and asserted i was the father (a biological impossibility for slightly different reasons than in your case) – she gave up the child in an open adoption and i had to both a)sign a document saying “i give up my right to this child” – i added in handwriting that it wasn’t my child anyway b) go to a family court hearing and again make the same assertions – this was over 30 years ago – i wonder if am on the birth certificate but i don’t wonder hard enough to put serious time and money into finding out – the young woman in question, a drama major and folksinger at the time, over a decade later ended up going to med school (like her dad) and now is in practice in ithaca

    as in your account, i’d never been to where she lived, but she told me it was with two guys – she had no bed in her room because she always slept with one or the other of them – as the social worker handling the adoption told me, the fact that she had chosen to attribute the pregnancy to me could be seen as a kind of compliment – i knew of one of the guys through the department where we both were grad students – not long after he had serious brain damage from a car accident

    2)with regard to synchronicities – indeed, such things do occur, and when i kept a dream journal for several months i was struck by how often dream details would presage, not just follow, events of my waking life – i used to give talks on jung’s concept of synchronicity – i like to think that synchronicities are one indication that the universe is here on purpose, people have or could have some connection with that purpose, and it is even possible to improve one’s ability to perceive and act on that purpose – through a long process of guided self-observation, e.g., which is unfortunately often thwarted by distraction – mostly people are acorns, only a few grow into oak trees, in gurdjieff’s metaphor – see comments at http://www.blckdgrd.com/2017/09/putting-earplugs-in-acorns.html


    1. “a young woman i was associating with got pregnant and asserted i was the father”

      There are so many strategies and tactics to navigate in your 20s and 30s!

      ” i used to give talks on jung’s concept of synchronicity”

      One of my recurrent catchphrases is “Paging Carl Jung…!”. And one of my most cartoonish coincidences was the time I was reading a Richard Brautigan book; a passage about people using dynamite to kill coyotes. In the middle of the page was the word “BOOM” and, at the *precise instant* I read the word, a large black balloon that had been in the closet for a few days exploded!

      “mostly people are acorns”

      Some are squirrels…


      1. erratum:

        I’ve taken the trouble to look through the Brautigan book, to double-check (after telling this story for 38 years) and see now it wasn’t “dynamite” but explosive cyanide capsules… and the word wasn’t “BOOM” but “BLAM!”


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